The Guide to Dating a First Responder, Nurse, or Medical Doctor

Dating a first responder, nurse, and/or a medical doctor can be quite challenging. There are many do's and don'ts to successfully date them. I will be discussing some of them so that you can, hopefully, snag and keep that handsome firefighter or gorgeous nurse that you have been eyeing.

First responders, nurses, and medical doctors do not typically work a 9-5 job. They tend NOT to have every weekend or holiday off, like a lot of other professions do. They tend to work in fast-paced environments, where service/care is provided 24 hours/7 days a week. As for a lot of first responders, they can often work in dangerous areas, which could cause a lot of mental stress for them. They can have some good days, and some bad days, which need to be understood by their significant other, in order for the relationship to last a significant amount of time.

As a nurse, I know first hand how it is to be in situations where you think or are hoping to leave work on time, but something happens that causes you to have to end up writing an incident report, or send someone to the ER, which prevents you from leaving work on time. There are just some things you just can't leave for the next shift to complete, as a first responder, nurse, or medical doctor. These are things that are unpredictable, and are beyond their control. This can ultimately cause them to have to cancel appointments, dates, and other special events, and you will need to know how to deal with this. That is often just how it goes in the healthcare field, and as working as a first responder.

When your first responder, nurse, or medical doctor partner does come home from work, give them some time to relax, de-stress, and/or just take a mental break. They often have emotionally, psychologically, and physically challenging days. Understand this when they are silent, because they may just need a calm, quiet environment to themselves to unwind for awhile. Keep in mind that it's ok to ask them about their day because they may want/need to vent. But, if they don't want to, respect that they may not want to speak about their day at all. Sometimes they may just want to internally process what occurred and deal with it by themselves.

My advice to you is:

  • Be patient with them, because there will be many days that will not always go as planned.

  • Show interest in what they do, and be empathetic to their reactions to the things that they have experienced while working.

  • Be a good listener. Listen when they want to vent or just tell you how their day went.

  • Be flexible. Always have a plan B for your scheduled date nights or planned events, just in case they are detained at their job.

  • Enjoy some "me" time while they are at work. Spend some time doing your hobbies, or spent time w/friends and family.

  • When they are off, make time for each other. Spend that time enjoying each others company. Every moment is precious, so don't waste it.

  • They are a caring person, and that's why they chose to do what they do for a living. Just be supportive of their career choice, and don't judge that decision.

Before you get too deep into dating a first responder, nurse, or medical doctor, understand that these fields are not like any other type of job. It takes a strong, patient, and compromising person to successfully date someone in these fields. If you are up for the challenge, I say, "Go for it!" You never know, you may have just found your "Uniform Love."

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